# 198. Divorce SOS: How to Respond to Threats and Aggressive Emails

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Podcast: [How Not To Suck At Divorce](https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361)
Published: 2026-03-20T05:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://hownottosuckatdivorce.com/
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## Resource

How to Respond to Threats and Aggressive Emails During Divorce: 2 Acronyms That Can Save Your Sanity Divorce can make even the calmest person feel like they are about to unravel. One inflammatory text. One manipulative email. One last-minute demand from your soon-to-be ex. And suddenly your nervous system is on fire. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce , Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport share two simple acronyms designed to help you stop spiraling, regulate your nervous system, and decide whether a response is actually necessary. If you are dealing with high-conflict divorce communication , threatening messages, co-parenting drama, or an ex who knows exactly how to push your buttons, this episode will give you practical tools you can use immediately. Because when your ex is trying to bait you, your best move is not to react — it’s to get strategic. In This Episode, We Talk About: how to respond to threatening emails during divorce what to do when your ex sends an inflammatory text how to stop emotional spiraling during divorce why your nervous system reacts so strongly to conflict the best way to pause before responding to your ex how to tell if a message actually requires a response when to call your divorce attorney and when not to how to communicate strategically in a high-conflict divorce why not every “urgent” message is truly urgent how co-parenting apps like Our Family Wizard can reduce stress Why Divorce Communication Feels So Triggering When you’re going through a divorce, communication with your ex is rarely neutral. Even a simple message can feel loaded. A text about travel, money, or the kids can instantly send your brain into panic mode — especially if the wording feels aggressive, manipulative, or threatening. Andrea explains that this is o…

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