# Thanksgiving Special: Disagreeing Better With Those You Love. Mónica Guzmán Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-do-we-fix-it-667/thanksgiving-special-disagreeing-better-with-those-you-love-m-nica-guzm-n Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-do-we-fix-it-667/thanksgiving-special-disagreeing-better-with-those-you-love-m-nica-guzm-n.md Podcast: [How Do We Fix It?](https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-do-we-fix-it-667) Published: 2025-11-25T10:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/howdowefixit/episodes/thanksgiving-special-disagreeing-better-with-those-you-love Audio file: https://sphinx.acast.com/p/acast/s/howdowefixit/e/6924ea6f20344a0413700af0/media.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-do-we-fix-it-667/episodes/thanksgiving-special-disagreeing-better-with-those-you-love-m-nica-guzm-n Duration seconds: 1094 ## Resource Many people say Thanksgiving is their favorite holiday: No cards to be sent. No presents to be purchased. A pause with family and close friends before the year-end holiday rush.  Thanksgiving is about gratitude, but it can also be a time of anxiety, and even dread. What do you say to family members, friends and neighbors who vote for a candidate or political party you despise? How do you react when they launch into a rant or say something that you find offensive? We share tips about how to disagree better with those you love. Our guest is Braver Angels National Advisor  Mónica Guzmán , author of the book “ I Never Thought of It That Way : How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times”. Móni is the liberal leaning, loving daughter of conservative parents. She’s had a lot of personal experience of connecting with people not like her. We hear several examples in this episode. Despite rigid political polarization among elites, everyday Americans may have much more in common than many of us believe.  A new Gallup poll  finds that more than four-in-five adults endorse compromise and reject political violence.  Research for More In Common  and other groups found that people have a distorted understanding of those on the other side of the political aisle. One-on-one and in-person conversations are the best way for us to overcome polarization in our personal lives, says Mónica. "The only context where we have our full arsenal of communication tools available is the in-person conversation." In our interview, Móni also shares valuable tips about how to listen with curiosity, lean into disagreements and turn them away from awkwardness and misunderstandings. Learn more about how to have better conversations with friends… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-do-we-fix-it-667/episodes/thanksgiving-special-disagreeing-better-with-those-you-love-m-nica-guzm-n/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-do-we-fix-it-667/thanksgiving-special-disagreeing-better-with-those-you-love-m-nica-guzm-n.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.