# Things I Wish I Knew About Love (So I Didn’t Beg for the Bare Minimum)

Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/hot-and-unbothered-6798147/things-i-wish-i-knew-about-love-so-i-didn-t-beg-for-the-bare-minimum
Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/hot-and-unbothered-6798147/things-i-wish-i-knew-about-love-so-i-didn-t-beg-for-the-bare-minimum.md
Podcast: [Hot and Unbothered](https://stenobird.com/podcast/hot-and-unbothered-6798147)
Published: 2026-02-13T14:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://traffic.megaphone.fm/EERMB8782368291.mp3?updated=1770933026
Audio file: https://traffic.megaphone.fm/EERMB8782368291.mp3?updated=1770933026
Processing state: not_requested
JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/hot-and-unbothered-6798147/episodes/things-i-wish-i-knew-about-love-so-i-didn-t-beg-for-the-bare-minimum
Duration seconds: 2250

## Resource

Love isn’t supposed to make you abandon yourself. In this episode, I’m sharing the things I wish I knew about love before I over-explained, over-gave, and accepted less than I deserved. From boundaries and self-respect to why you don’t need to be in a relationship at all times, this is a reminder that love should add to your life — not drain it. We talk about:• Why you never need to convince someone to value you + the Pink Diamond Theory• Setting standards early (without playing games)• Why you can’t fix someone (and don’t need to)• Why hot-and-cold love isn’t passion— it’s toxicity This episode is for the girls learning to choose themselves without guilt and love without losing who they are. ✨ Real love doesn’t require you to shrink.✨ You don’t need to earn basic respect.✨ And you are allowed to walk away. Check out the Acaso Site! The tool you NEED to stick to your goals this year: the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BECOMING HER PLANNER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the girlies who are serious about leveling up (made by your's truly!) Remember to rate the pod 5 stars & leave a review to be featured in next week's episode! Subscribe to my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more! Join our Hot & Unbothered besties⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ groupchat to hold each other accountable! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Tune in to learn how to unlock your highest, hottest, & HAPPIEST self and truly GLOW UP from the inside and out. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stream Hot & Unbothered on ANY PLATFORM.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ LET’S BE FRIENDS ♡: Hot & Unbothered is on TikTok!:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠…

## Actions

- request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/hot-and-unbothered-6798147/episodes/things-i-wish-i-knew-about-love-so-i-didn-t-beg-for-the-bare-minimum/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode.
- read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/hot-and-unbothered-6798147/things-i-wish-i-knew-about-love-so-i-didn-t-beg-for-the-bare-minimum.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource.

A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed.

## Transcript

Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.