# How Do I Stop Rejecting Myself? [Coaching Session With Sebastian] | EP 86

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Podcast: [Heart of Man | Men's Leadership, Relationships and Intimacy](https://stenobird.com/podcast/heart-of-man-men-s-leadership-relationships-and-intimacy-6476755)
Published: 2026-09-15T20:44:13+00:00
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## Resource

In this coaching session, I had the privilege of sitting down with Sebastian for an in-depth conversation about rejection, the fear of being rejected, and the ways we can end up rejecting ourselves in the process. Our session began with Sebastian sharing a recent encounter with a woman he connected with at a retreat. As we explored what happened, he recognised early on that he was the very person who rejected himself before she ever had the opportunity to do so. Him sharing that experience opened the door to a much deeper pattern within Sebastian, one that had shaped much of his life. Together, we explored the ways Sebastian had learned to present himself throughout his life in order to earn approval, recognition, and acceptance. We traced this pattern back to childhood, including the experiences that taught him that distinct aspects of himself, such as his softness, love, and vulnerability, were not welcome. This became an opportunity to examine the ways he was still meeting himself with rejection, harshness, and the demand to be different. We explored what it could look like to meet fear directly, to be with it, and to reconnect with the parts of himself he had learned to push away. In this coaching session, we explore: How Sebastian misread a moment with a woman at a retreat and rejected himself before she ever could The childhood story that taught him his love and softness weren't welcome Why meeting fear, rather than overriding it, is essential to developing genuine confidence The difference between strength that comes from propping ourselves up and strength that comes from embracing all aspects of ourselves What it looks like to choose yourself, regardless of how anyone else responds What emerged for Sebastian during the breathwork session and the insights he too…

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