# S18 E299: But What If I'm Not Attracted? Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/heart-of-dating-230167/s18-e299-but-what-if-i-m-not-attracted Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/heart-of-dating-230167/s18-e299-but-what-if-i-m-not-attracted.md Podcast: [Heart of Dating](https://stenobird.com/podcast/heart-of-dating-230167) Published: 2026-07-15T08:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.megaphone.fm/TSF2563798127.mp3 Audio file: https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.megaphone.fm/TSF2563798127.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/heart-of-dating-230167/episodes/s18-e299-but-what-if-i-m-not-attracted Duration seconds: 1873 ## Resource Today we're digging into the myth of instant chemistry as Kait and JJ unpack why moderate attraction matters, challenge Disney-style romance expectations, and share stories (including their own) about how attraction can genuinely grow over time! Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching  Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating   Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest  Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library  Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast  Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true  . . . . .  A quick thank you to one of our friends! Compassion International: Do you have a bur… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/heart-of-dating-230167/episodes/s18-e299-but-what-if-i-m-not-attracted/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/heart-of-dating-230167/s18-e299-but-what-if-i-m-not-attracted.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.