# How High-Functioning Anxiety Blocks Love — and What to Do Instead

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Podcast: [Healing Anxious Attachment](https://stenobird.com/podcast/healing-anxious-attachment-6672038)
Published: 2025-06-09T11:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

You never “need” anything. But underneath, you’re anxious, and wishing to feel more held. In this episode, we explore what happens when high-functioning anxiety plays out in relationships — from early dating to long-term partnership. And most importantly, how it impacts your ability to be met, supported, and chosen. You’ll hear: Why overfunctioning can push love away — even when your intentions are pure How emotional management erodes polarity and leads to mothering The kinds of men we attract when we’re performing vs. when we’re rooted in self And what to practice instead — so you stop chasing safety and start receiving love If you’ve ever said “I did everything and he still pulled away, why wasn't I enough?” this episode is for you. WORK TOGETHER 🧡 🌻 🫳🏼 BECOMING SECURE MEMBERSHIP COMMUNITY - Course + Coaching + Community 📲 Find me on Instagram Mentioned in this episode: 🧡 Workshop Sun, July 5th 11am ET inside Becoming Her ✨ 👉🏼 Join me for Secure & Self-Assured https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about Embodied confidence that isn’t dependent on outcomes, praise, or proving. Expect practices that strengthen inner stability, self-trust, and the ability to express who you are without over-explaining or over-functioning.

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