# What Do We Really Want Our Next Baby to be… Boy or Girl?

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Podcast: [He Said, She Said](https://stenobird.com/podcast/he-said-she-said-7033857)
Published: 2026-04-14T23:04:00+00:00
Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/he-said-she-said-pod/episodes/giug
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Louise and Ryan kick things off with a simple question, would they want a boy or a girl next? But their answers reveal something deeper, opening up a conversation about the quiet fears of parenting in a world shaped by the manosphere and everything kids are exposed to online. That leads into screen time, boundaries, and the looming question every parent faces… what happens when your child asks for a phone? Their take might surprise you... Plus, Louise shares why she chose to go sober, and a listener question about surrogacy uncovers something unexpected… was Ryan always sure he wanted kids? 00:00 Intro 00:40 Leo's Challenging Behavior Phase 10:53 What Will Leo Be Like When He Grows Up? 12:00 Do we want a boy or girl next? 12:55 The Manosphere and Raising Respectful Men 17:29 The Fear of Having a daughter 20:26 When Will Leo Get a Phone? 22:55 Screen Time and Parenting Challenges 48:02 Louise's Sobriety Journey 1:00:20 Ryan originally didn't want children 1:02:17 Looking Ahead in our surrogacy journey 🗓 New episodes every Wednesday 📩 We’ve got a NEW email! Want to get involved? Email HSSS@srproductions.co.uk or slide straight into our DMs @hesaid.shesaid.podcast. We want it all. Your dilemmas, questions, voice notes, stories and opinions. If it’s pod-related, we’re listening. 🩵 Follow us everywhere   Instagram | TikTok | Youtube  @hesaid.shesaid.podcast And of course… don’t forget to subscribe, follow, rate and review. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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