# The REAL Reason We’re Not Married Yet… Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/he-said-she-said-7033857/the-real-reason-we-re-not-married-yet Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/he-said-she-said-7033857/the-real-reason-we-re-not-married-yet.md Podcast: [He Said, She Said](https://stenobird.com/podcast/he-said-she-said-7033857) Published: 2026-03-25T00:03:00+00:00 Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/he-said-she-said-pod/episodes/x Audio file: https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/66df4617edd54443991e281f/e/69c2a3a97878605e11e497d0/media.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/he-said-she-said-7033857/episodes/the-real-reason-we-re-not-married-yet Duration seconds: 2907 ## Resource Happy Birthday Louise!!! 🥳 Of course, as it’s her birthday we had a few surprises planned… starting with Ryan transforming into Louise’s “ideal man.” Or at least, that was the plan. Let’s just say it didn’t exactly go the way we expected. We also get into why Louise actually HATES her birthday, and the deeper reason behind it. That conversation takes an unexpected turn, leading to a very honest reveal about why Louise and Ryan still aren’t married… even after being engaged for eight years. This also opens up Ryan’s biggest regret from his proposal. Things get even more emotional as he shares a series of surprise gifts that leave Louise laughing, and a little teary. And just when she thinks it’s over, there’s one final surprise… a very special guest crashes the recording to wish Louise a happy birthday. You’ll have to listen to the end to find out who. 00:00 Ryan dresses up to surprise Louise!  00:41 Why Louise hates her birthday  06:03 Louise’s Childhood Birthday Experiences 10:05 The Root of Birthday Discomfort 12:18 Why we aren’t married yet?!  15:57 Louise’s ideal Birthday 18:38 Ryan’s Shocking Engagement Revelation 22:41 Louise’s best birthday feeling  25:03 Dream Birthday Scenario 29:06 Birthday Present Surprises 32:10 A Decade of Birthdays Journey Together  41:28 Advice to Younger Selves 45:28 Mystery guest surprise revealed!  🗓 New episodes every Wednesday 📩 We’ve got a NEW email! Want to get involved? Email HSSS@srproductions.co.uk or slide straight into our DMs @hesaid.shesaid.podcast. We want it all. Your dilemmas, questions, voice notes, stories and opinions. If it’s pod-related, we’re listening. 🩵 Follow us everywhere   Instagram | TikTok | Youtube  @hesaid.shesaid.podcast And of course… don’t forget to subscribe… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/he-said-she-said-7033857/episodes/the-real-reason-we-re-not-married-yet/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/he-said-she-said-7033857/the-real-reason-we-re-not-married-yet.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.