# How to Work with Someone You Can't Stand: The Harvard Business Review Guide

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Published: 2026-06-07T11:30:00+00:00
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How to Work with Someone You Can't Stand: The Harvard Business Review Guide 18 May 2022 --- Sure, you could just argue with them. But if you have to work together, here are more productive ways for everyone to win. 00:00 Let me guess: you argue with someone you don't like, or complain about them, or ignore them, right? 00:26 I have a magic trick that will make that annoying co-worker ... less annoying. 01:22 Ask: How am I reacting? 01:40 What exactly is it that's bothering me, and why? 02:40 Separate behaviors from traits. 03:00 Is it really so bad to not like each other? 03:20 What DO I like about this person? 04:00 What might happen if I spent more time with this person? (Yes, this is a hard one!) 04:40 Can we talk about it? 06:15 Ok, nothing else works. What if I just ignore them? 06:55 Let's review! Reading list: https://hbr.org/2012/01/how-to-work-with-someone-you-h https://hbr.org/2021/11/how-to-work-with-someone-you-really-dont-like https://hbr.org/2018/12/how-to-collaborate-with-people-you-dont-like https://hbr.org/2018/04/how-to-develop-empathy-for-someone-who-annoys-you https://hbr.org/2013/08/how-to-manage-someone-you-dont Produced by Amy Gallo, Jessica Gidal, and Scott LaPierre Video by Andy Robinson Edited by Jessica Gidal Design by Riko Cribbs, Karen Player, and Jessica Gidal Follow us: https://hbr.org/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/harvard-business-review/ https://www.facebook.com/HBR/ https://twitter.com/HarvardBiz https://www.instagram.com/harvard_business_review Sign up for Newsletters: https://hbr.org/email-newsletters #HarvardBusinessReview #HowTo #SomeoneYouCan'tStand Copyright © 2022 Harvard Business School Publishing. All rights reserved. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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