# 370: Grief, Guilt, and Shame in Grad School: When Your Experience Isn’t What You Imagined

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Published: 2026-05-01T07:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

In episode 370 of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I talk about what it means to experience grief, guilt, and shame in grad school, especially when your journey does not match what you originally imagined. This episode is for graduate students who feel disconnected from their expectations, are navigating unexpected challenges, or are carrying emotional weight tied to their academic experience. I draw from patterns I consistently see in my coaching work to name and validate these experiences. I walk through how grief, guilt, and shame show up in graduate school, particularly for first-generation, BIPOC, neurodivergent, and chronically ill students navigating the hidden curriculum and systemic barriers. I introduce practical ways to process these emotions while still staying connected to your goals, including redefining progress, separating capacity from identity, and building supportive systems.

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