# 71: Quit Being Mean to Yourself | Staying on Your Own Side When Confidence and Doubt Collide

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Published: 2026-07-13T10:00:00+00:00
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Duration seconds: 815

## Resource

Sometimes the most helpful advice comes from the most unexpected place — for me this week, it's my astrology app. In this mini mindset episode, I unpack a message that stopped me in my tracks: "quit being mean to yourself," and what it actually means to stay on your own side, even when the pendulum between confidence and self-doubt is swinging fast. I get into the difference between passive self-kindness and active self-advocacy, sharing a conversation I had with a young actress who was spiraling in her career, plus a mindset lesson from interior designer Gailey Alex on ruthless optimism and handling rejection like it's everyone else's loss. I close out with my own daily rituals for staying connected to myself — from morning activations to protecting my creative hours. This one's for anyone caught in that whiplash between "I've got this" and "wait, do I actually?" In This Episode: The Chani astrology app message that started it all Why being mean to myself has never once created growth The difference between not being mean to yourself and actively staying on your own side A conversation I had with a struggling young actress about belief and permission Gailey Alex's "ruthless optimism" and reframing rejection ("gluten can't tolerate me") Why the relationship with yourself is the most important one you'll ever have My morning rituals for priming my brain and staying on my own side Protecting creative energy, curating your scroll, and prioritizing connection RESOURCES: Chani astrology app Trading Secrets Podcast — Gailey Alex The Activations app ✨ Connect with Maddie ✨ **Explore Maddie's Website | @messywithmaddie **

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