# Mirror Mirror - Leadership and Self-Delusion

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Podcast: [Frustrated And Exhausted](https://stenobird.com/podcast/frustrated-and-exhausted-6710849)
Published: 2025-11-18T23:15:00+00:00
Episode link: https://frustrated-and-exhausted.captivate.fm
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## Resource

In this insightful episode, I dive deep into the theme of self-reflection and authenticity in leadership. I explore how leaders can become distanced from their true selves, often falling for a curated and polished version that feels safe and familiar. Through personal stories and coaching anecdotes, I unpack the subtle dangers of self-delusion and the ego’s protective fog. 00:01:00 – 00:02:14 Discussion about blind spots, the role of ego in clouding our self-view, and how we often curate a polished version of ourselves as leaders. 00:02:14 – 00:03:17 Explores self-delusion and reframes it as self-protection; describes how our brains help maintain identity and how we rationalize behaviors. 00:03:17 – 00:04:03 Provides examples of how leaders might use “style” as armor, referencing a coached leader who inadvertently built a team that avoided challenging her. 00:04:03 – 00:04:51 Illustrates how lack of self-awareness leads to growing distortions and compares it to a hall of mirrors; warns against mistaking control for clarity. 00:04:51 – 00:05:42 Describes a 'crack in the mirror' moment, when feedback or crisis reveals unfiltered truth, which though harsh, can be a gift for growth. 00:05:42 – 00:07:01 Gives practical advice on inviting honest reflection, rewarding feedback, and sitting with discomfort instead of immediately rationalizing or distancing. 00:07:01 – 00:07:43 Talks about discerning the validity of feedback, considering repeated patterns, and encourages facing uncomfortable truths for real leadership. 00:07:43 – 00:08:20 Warns against over-polishing personal brand, advocates for brave authenticity, and reflects on the messy nature of real leadership. 00:08:20 – 00:09:20 Wraps up advice, hopes listeners take the lessons with them, and remarks on recognizing sel…

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