# Ep. 819: 3 Steps to Untangle Messy Emotional Situations

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Podcast: [Fit 2 Love Podcast with JJ Flizanes](https://stenobird.com/podcast/fit-2-love-podcast-with-jj-flizanes-319823)
Published: 2026-06-23T05:00:00+00:00
Episode link: http://jjflizanes.com
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3 Steps to Untangle Messy Emotional Situations The Missing Skill Nobody Taught You About Emotions What if the reason you keep replaying conversations, feeling triggered, shutting down, people-pleasing, or struggling to communicate isn't because something is wrong with you? What if no one ever taught you how emotions actually work? In this episode, JJ introduces one of the most powerful frameworks she has ever used for emotional healing, conflict resolution, nervous system regulation, and personal responsibility. Most people were never taught: How to identify what they're feeling How to understand their needs How to navigate emotional situations effectively How to listen underneath the story Instead, we've been taught to react, defend, avoid, cope, or blame. JJ explains why emotional situations become messy and introduces the three questions that can change everything. The Three Questions What am I feeling? What need isn't being met? What strategy could I use to get that need met? While simple, these questions can transform how you approach conflict, stress, relationships, and communication. Key Takeaways Emotional situations become complicated when we focus on the story instead of what's happening underneath. Stress, anxiety, frustration, resentment, and overwhelm often point to unmet needs. Your interpretation of an event creates your emotional experience more than the event itself. Core wounds and subconscious beliefs influence how you interpret the world. Most addictive, numbing, or coping behaviors are attempts to avoid uncomfortable emotions. Learning to identify feelings and needs creates greater peace, clarity, and self-awareness. Emotional intelligence begins with taking responsibility for your internal experience. Listening differently can dramatically improve…

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