# 266. The NYT Tried to Give Us Dating Rules and We Have Notes ft. Darcy

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Podcast: [Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-mr-height-the-podcast-3584663)
Published: 2026-03-23T06:00:05+00:00
Episode link: https://findingmrheight.com/podcast
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## Resource

Returning guest and Ali’s good friend Darcy is back on the pod, and they’re diving straight into the New York Times' crowdsourced list of 35 dating rules. Some of them? Genuinely solid. Some of them? Completely unhinged. And several of them directly contradict each other, which is so indicative of modern dating. Topics include how people treat servers, outsourcing your nervous system to a partner, paying on dates, the pacing of physical intimacy, whether you actually need to like someone's friends, and a $75 first-date filet mignon story. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Armoire: Check out Armoire: https://armoire.style/FMH Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Our Sponsors: * Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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