# 314: You Are Not Your Trauma: How You Can Heal Your Life Experience

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Podcast: [Finding Brave](https://stenobird.com/podcast/finding-brave-9725)
Published: 2025-09-18T08:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

What if the parenting behaviors you dislike most in yourself aren't really "you"? What if they're trauma responses your brain learned long ago to survive, and what if you could change them? In this episode of Finding Brave, Dr. Robyn Koslowitz explores how trauma shapes our parenting and what we can do to change the cycle. Dr. Koslowitz is a trauma expert, child psychologist, and author of the new book Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be . She treats children, adolescents, and families at the Center for Psychological Growth of New Jersey , and hosts the Post-Traumatic Parenting YouTube channel and podcast . In this conversation, she explains how trauma responses can surface in family life through yelling, dissociating, or people-pleasing, and why social media often deepens parents' shame instead of easing it. She introduces the concept of the "trauma app," which rewires the brain, and shows how children, unlike bosses or spouses, can reveal these hidden patterns. This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is possible and that parenting can become a path to breaking cycles and reclaiming emotional presence. Tune in to learn how Dr. Koslowitz's insights and practices can help you move beyond trauma and become the parent you always wanted to be! Key Points From This Episode: Introduction to Dr. Robyn Koslowitz and her book Post-Traumatic Parenting . [02:19] Why parents often judge themselves harshly for yelling, dissociating, or people-pleasing. [05:01] How social media can amplify shame and harm post-traumatic parents. [07:41] Dr. Koslowitz's definition of trauma: something that is too big to metabolize, shakes your sense of self or safety, and is faced alone. [10:29] The "trauma app" metaphor and how our brains c…

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