# 479: Your 34-Step Morning Routine (And Being a Control Freak) Is Ruining Your Life Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminine-as-f-ck-572383/479-your-34-step-morning-routine-and-being-a-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminine-as-f-ck-572383/479-your-34-step-morning-routine-and-being-a-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life.md Podcast: [Feminine as F*ck](https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminine-as-f-ck-572383) Published: 2026-05-20T10:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feminineasfck/episodes/479-Your-34-Step-Morning-Routine-And-Being-a-Control-Freak-Is-Ruining-Your-Life-e3jkd2l Audio file: https://anchor.fm/s/86b33a4/podcast/play/120254997/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-4-20%2F424508356-44100-2-eaff4d269ea6e.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/feminine-as-f-ck-572383/episodes/479-your-34-step-morning-routine-and-being-a-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life Duration seconds: 2677 ## Resource Control got you here, but it's also what's keeping you stuck. ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbENttKi0Jg In this episode, Monica breaks down why control has been your biggest asset AND your biggest block, what it’s actually costing you, and how to start releasing it without feeling like your whole life is going to fall apart. She talks about: 🪞 How control is a trauma response, and how it’s holding you back 🪞 Why your 34-step morning routine is setting you up for massive failure 🪞 The difference between conscious control and control as a trauma response 🪞 Why discipline and structure are good—until they turn you into a control freak 🪞 How your hyper-independence is blocking you from feeling how good your life already is 🪞 The impossibility of being in a flow state and in control at the same time 🪞 Why control freaks get addicted to stress and create drama when life is calm +++++ As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the free live masterclass — From Roommates to Ravished: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/roommates-to-ravished-mc?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Grab one of the last tickets — The Immersion 2026 in Paris: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/immersion?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=immersion-2026 ⇢ Listen next — 475: Why Your Inner Control Freak Is Ruining Your Life and Relationships (And How to Finally Let Go): https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/475-why-your-inner-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life-and-relationships-and-how-to-finally-let-go ⇢ Listen next — 465: The Trauma Cycle Explained: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/465-the-trauma-cycle-explained-why-you-keep-repeating-the-same-patterns?_pos=7&… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/feminine-as-f-ck-572383/episodes/479-your-34-step-morning-routine-and-being-a-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/feminine-as-f-ck-572383/479-your-34-step-morning-routine-and-being-a-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.