# EFR 934: Unsingle - How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts with Amy Chan

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Published: 2026-04-13T08:00:00+00:00
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Duration seconds: 4413

## Resource

This episode is brought to you by Audible , Ancient + Brave , Strong Coffee Company and Fatty15. Today we welcome relationship expert Amy Chan to break down the science of heartbreak, attachment patterns, and modern dating , revealing why breakups feel like addiction withdrawal and how high-performers often sabotage their healing by avoiding emotions instead of processing them. You'll learn how to stop ruminating on your ex, rebuild your identity after a breakup, and create new neural pathways through intentional action , as well as why strategies like "staying friends" or "winning the breakup" often backfire. Amy also shares her dating funnel framework , helping listeners understand how to move from casual dating to committed relationships while avoiding common pitfalls like confusing preferences with dealbreakers. This conversation is a powerful guide for anyone looking to move on faster, date smarter, and build healthier, more conscious relationships . Follow Amy @missamychan Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- 00:00 – Why You Can't Skip the Pain of a Breakup 00:28 – Feeling vs Avoiding Emotions 00:58 – What Happens When You Suppress Pain 01:26 – Meet Amy Chan 01:51 – The Problem with Forcing Forgiveness 02:47 – The Science of Breakup Withdrawal 04:15 – Why Men Struggle More After Breakups 05:26 – Rebound Relationships Explained 06:30 – How Long It Really Takes to Heal 08:40 – Your Brain on Heartbreak (Addiction Comparison) 09:09 – Why No Contact Works 10:12 – The Reality of Avoiding Your Ex 11:11 – Why Doing Nothing Slows Healing 12:07 – How to Stop Ruminating 13:19 – Building New Neural Pathways 14:38 – Trying to "Win" the Breakup 15:57 – What to Do in the First 30 Days 17:19 – How Friends Should Support You 18:16 – Different Types of Breakups 19:53 – Should You Ev…

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