# Big Emotions Parent's Aren't Cool

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Podcast: [Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families](https://stenobird.com/podcast/dr-justin-coulson-s-happy-families-49671)
Published: 2026-04-20T19:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://omny.fm/shows/dr-justin-coulsons-happy-families/big-emotions-parents-arent-cool
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## Resource

Your child refuses to leave the house… melts down over their hair… or acts defiant when you show up. Is it anxiety, attitude… or something deeper? In this episode, we unpack what’s really going on when big emotions collide with growing independence - and how to respond in a way that actually helps (not escalates). If your child suddenly thinks you’re “cringe”… this one’s for you. KEY POINTS Big emotions ≠ bad behaviour (and why labels matter) The hidden link between anxiety, overwhelm, and defiance The difference between autonomy and “doing whatever they want” Why kids reject parents in public (and what it really means) How misaligned parenting can amplify emotional struggles A simple framework to get on the same page as your partner The power of collaborative problem-solving (instead of control) QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Autonomy isn’t freedom — it’s helping kids make thoughtful, values-based choices.” RESOURCES MENTIONED The “What’s working / What’s not / What next” parenting check-in The “Three E’s” collaborative problem-solving approach ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause before labelling behaviour — ask: what’s underneath this? Have a calm check-in with your partner: what’s working, what’s not, what next Get curious with your child instead of offering solutions Ask: “Help me understand why this feels hard” Co-create a plan your child actually agrees with Find small, respectful ways to stay connected — even when they push you away See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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