# Why “Meeting His Needs” Is Killing Your Desire - with Dr. Lori Brotto | Ep. 191

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Podcast: [Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.](https://stenobird.com/podcast/doing-it-together-making-sense-of-low-libido-sex-and-intimacy-in-marriage-5614621)
Published: 2026-05-05T12:00:21+00:00
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Duration seconds: 2118

## Resource

Why do so many women feel disconnected from sex—even in loving relationships? In this episode, we unpack the two core motivations behind intimacy: avoidance and approach. When sex is driven by pressure, obligation, or fear—like avoiding conflict, guilt, or rejection—it’s no surprise that desire fades. Yet, this pattern is so normalized that many women end up believing something is wrong with them, rather than questioning the system itself. Joined by renowned researcher Dr. Lori Brotto, this conversation explores what actually makes sex feel good—and worth wanting. From understanding why low desire is so common to redefining pleasure as the goal (not performance or frequency), this episode challenges everything you’ve been taught about intimacy. If you’ve ever felt like sex is something you “should” want but don’t, this will offer clarity, validation, and a new way forward. Find all info about Dr. Lori Brotto here: https://www.loribrotto.com/ Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn more? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together . Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026.

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