# 10 Intimacy Myths We Believed (And Had to Unlearn)

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Podcast: [Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-you-feel-that-a-couples-intimacy-sex-podcast-7499275)
Published: 2026-04-15T17:51:29+00:00
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Where did you learn about sex and intimacy? Movies? Church? A locker room? A well-meaning friend who was just as clueless as you? Most of us absorbed our earliest beliefs about intimacy from sources that were wrong, incomplete, or actively harmful — and we've been quietly running on those beliefs ever since. In Episode 27, Scott and Brittney get personal and a little vulnerable as they walk through the top 10 intimacy myths they actually believed — and what it took to unlearn them. From the spontaneous passion myth and the mind-reading expectation, to performance pressure, purity culture messaging, and the idea that wanting more means something is wrong with you — this episode names the scripts most couples are still running on without realizing it. It's lighter than it sounds. There's humor, honesty, and more than a few moments where Scott and Brittney share the personal cost of believing something that was never true. In this episode: Why unconscious myths do more damage than obvious ones The spontaneous passion myth — and what responsive desire actually looks like Performance myths about duration and frequency that were never based in reality How purity culture messaging shows up in adult relationships long after you've left the church The movie version of sex vs. the real, awkward, actually intimate version The common thread across all 10 myths: they were all designed to make you smaller Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle , our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers…

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