# Love Isn't Enough to Make a Relationship Work

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Podcast: [Do As We Say, Not As They Did](https://stenobird.com/podcast/do-as-we-say-not-as-they-did-7726812)
Published: 2026-07-08T09:30:00+00:00
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## Resource

Is there a secret formula for healthy, conflict-free relationships? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O'Malley have an insightful yap session about why so many people approach dating and relationships like they're trying to solve a logic puzzle, and why that often creates more frustration than it solves. From clients who expect their therapists to "fix them" to people who would do anything to avoid the friction that comes with being around other people, Harris and Liz have a lot to say about what it means to be vulnerable, the necessity of doing hard things, and how therapy is most effective. Highlights of the episode: Liz's love for Couples Therapy (you should totally add it to your watchlist!) Why love isn't enough to sustain a relationship Breaking up is not failing!!! Harris' boomer opinion about technology…but he's not wrong 😉 Everyone wants the perfect dating advice or script to say, and while Liz and Harris can't promise that, they can promise thoughtful discussion and practical tips to help you nurture healthy relationships. Time Stamps 00:00 - Intro and welcome 00:45 - People who don't see therapists as human 02:20 - Why understanding why you do something isn't enough to change 03:35 - The biggest myth TV teaches us about therapy 04:20 - Therapists pay attention to how you relate to them as a person 06:15 - Looking for the "right words" instead of real connection 07:30 - Changing your appearance won't fix deeper insecurities 08:00 - How watching Couples Therapy exposes relationship pitfalls 11:30 - Why people search for loopholes instead of accountability 15:56 - Why so many people want therapy to "fix" their partner 17:35 - Couples therapy isn't appropriate for abusive relationships 19:25 - How manipulative people can…

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