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Is It Okay to Feel Relieved After Divorce? Yes. Here's Why You Need to Stop Feeling Guilty About It with Olivia Howell
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- Divorce Happens
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- May 21, 2026
- Duration seconds
- 352
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Summary
There's an emotion that lives in a quiet corner of a lot of divorced women — one they haven't said out loud to their therapist, their best friend, or maybe even themselves. And in this solo episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia is naming it directly: relief. Relief after divorce — or even during it — is one of the most common and least talked-about emotional experiences of divorce recovery. The exhale that finally comes. The shoulders that finally drop. The quiet that feels like peace instead of loneliness. And then, almost in the same breath, the guilt that crashes in right behind it. Because what kind of person feels relieved that their marriage is over? What does that say about you? Olivia's answer is clear and compassionate: it says you were carrying something very heavy for a very long time. That's it. That's the whole answer. In this episode, Olivia unpacks why relief is not a confession — not proof that you never loved him, that your marriage meant nothing, or that you're grieving wrong. It's a physiological response. It's your nervous system finally exhaling after years of being on high alert. She also speaks directly to the women who felt relieved and then immediately wondered if that relief meant they should have left sooner — and why that line of thinking deserves a really careful second look. The most powerful takeaway of this episode might be this: relief and grief are not opposites. They can exist in the exact same moment. You are allowed to exhale and also cry. To feel lighter and also feel the loss. To be glad it's over and still mourn the version of it you always hoped it could be. These are not contradictions. They are the completely human, completely valid emotional reality of ending a marriage. This one is for every woman who has felt relieved and then…