# Hey Olivia, how do I stop sleeping with my spouse now that we're separated? Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/divorce-happens-6931880/hey-olivia-how-do-i-stop-sleeping-with-my-spouse-now-that-we-re-separated Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/divorce-happens-6931880/hey-olivia-how-do-i-stop-sleeping-with-my-spouse-now-that-we-re-separated.md Podcast: [Divorce Happens](https://stenobird.com/podcast/divorce-happens-6931880) Published: 2026-09-09T13:30:00+00:00 Episode link: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/divorce-happens Audio file: https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/ec45ba7e-a521-44fa-9e78-f6c1e539357f.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/divorce-happens-6931880/episodes/hey-olivia-how-do-i-stop-sleeping-with-my-spouse-now-that-we-re-separated Duration seconds: 365 ## Resource "Since my husband and I separated, we keep ending up back in bed together. It's not planned. It just happens." In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers one of the most common ā€” and least talked about ā€” parts of separation: continuing to sleep with a spouse you've split from, and why it's so much harder to stop than it sounds. Olivia covers: Why this is one of the most common things that happens during separation, even though almost no one admits it out loud The real chemical bonding that comes with physical intimacy with someone familiar, regardless of where things stand emotionally Why keeping this private isn't shame ā€” it's often just protecting yourself from managing other people's reactions Why the "setback" feeling afterward isn't confusion, it's clear information: the body wants comfort, growth wants distance, and both are true at once Why structural changes work better than willpower alone ā€” limiting alone time, meeting in public, having a plan for loneliness How to get specific about whether the craving is for that person, or for touch and closeness in general Why deciding your boundary on a calm day beats deciding it in a lonely moment "Your body wants comfort. Your growth wants distance. Both are true." Need support navigating this? Fresh Starts Registry offers free consults, a vetted professional network, and free guides. Learn more at freshstartsregistry.com. If this episode helped, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it today. šŸ”— Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform āž” https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ šŸ“± Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ šŸ“˜ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry šŸŽ™ Podcast IG: https://www.iā€¦ ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/divorce-happens-6931880/episodes/hey-olivia-how-do-i-stop-sleeping-with-my-spouse-now-that-we-re-separated/transcription-requests` ā€” Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/divorce-happens-6931880/hey-olivia-how-do-i-stop-sleeping-with-my-spouse-now-that-we-re-separated.md` ā€” Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.