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Not All Men! But Definitely 62 Million Hits From Some of the Men...
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- Different, Not Broken
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- Apr 29, 2026
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Summary
Maybe not all men. But what do we do when a site has 62 million hits originating from lots of them? Hi, I'm Lauren Howard. I go by "L2" and this week I'm going full Winter Soldier mode. You know that scene in Captain America where they say the trigger phrase and Bucky Barnes just... activates? Yeah, that's me. Every. Single. Time. someone types "not all men" in my comments. We're talking about the 62 million hits logged on a website that existed to teach people how to s*xually assault women. For context: Sony's entire website gets 24 million hits a month. So let's not pretend the numbers are somehow ambiguous here. We also get into the prototype employee — the 45-year-old white man that every workplace policy, dress code, and promotion pipeline has been quietly built around — and what that means for literally everyone else. Timestamped summary 00:57 — The "not all men" trigger phrase 02:17 — The 45-year-old white man prototype 03:57 — Why workplaces weren't built for your brain 05:42 — 62 million hits. Let that land. 07:04 — Why women choose the bear 10:22 — The responsibility of the good men 12:23 — ADHD brain & too many tabs open 14:01 — My children are weaponizing their butts 14:34 — Small Talk with Alison: self-improvement culture 15:57 — The iPhone 1 analogy 17:32 — There is no finish line