# Choosing Peace Over Performance: Parentification & Attachment During the Holidays

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Podcast: [Deciphering Growth](https://stenobird.com/podcast/deciphering-growth-6731338)
Published: 2026-01-07T12:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

The holidays don’t just bring joy — they can reactivate parentification, attachment patterns, and nervous-system survival responses we’ve carried since childhood. In this season-ending episode of Deciphering Growth ,we explore:• Why parentified children feel exhausted during family gatherings• How attachment styles show up under holiday stress• The neuroscience behind emotional labor, hypervigilance, and “keeping thepeace”• What it actually means to choose peace over performance

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