# S22E20: Love Hard On Purpose w/ John Kim

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Podcast: [Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships](https://stenobird.com/podcast/dateable-your-insider-s-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships-1055044)
Published: 2026-06-23T12:00:21+00:00
Episode link: http://www.dateablepodcast.com/
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## Resource

We're getting real today...because building the type of connection that's real and honest takes us looking at love differently. We're joined by John Kim aka The Angry Therapist who challenges the traditional, views of loves, arguing for a more grounded approach that's more realistic. We're discussing the reasons his definition of a healthy relationship has changed over the years, how to co-create with your partner (even if you are on your first date!), and some unconventional advice to connect better, restarting over again, and moving forward after an expired relationship (as he likes to call it). To learn more about John Kim, you can follow him @theangrytherapist and go to https://www.theangrytherapist.com/. Get his new book 'Love Hard On Purpose' wherever books are sold. TW: We do talk about MDMA in this episode ---- Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling Dating app https://onelink.fling.com/thYJ/xhhgy8dt or visit fling.me today Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Have you ever had a time in yo…

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