# Brian and Judson hookup with Gay Tired Hopeful’s Andrew Abel and talk commodotizing sex, gay exhaustion, being born polyamorous and insatiable bottoms

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Podcast: [Dads And Daddies](https://stenobird.com/podcast/dads-and-daddies-6901903)
Published: 2026-09-08T07:15:00+00:00
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Brian and Judson are joined by Andrew Abel, founder and creative director of Gay Tired Hopeful, which "explores the patterns shaping modern queer life, from identity and intimacy to culture, work, and belonging, and the things we’re all quietly trying to figure out." Andrew describes how his professional and personal lives converged to drive him to create Gay Tired Hopeful, shares how his social media post questioning why gay men always act like there’s someone better drove its current popularity, and delves into why ‘Tired’ is an important part of the platform’s name. He also talks about cruising in forests, being raised without rules, and identifying as polyamorous while married to someone who may not be. In closing, Andrew joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is new to topping and has much he’s curious about, particularly when it comes to living up to bottoms’ standards at his regular bathhouse.

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