# Sexless Marriage: “I Love You… But I’m Not In Love With You”

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Podcast: [Dad Starting Over](https://stenobird.com/podcast/dad-starting-over-688904)
Published: 2026-04-03T11:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://share.transistor.fm/s/afb96506
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## Resource

A 47-year-old husband wrote to me after 17 years of marriage. No big fights. No confirmed cheating. Just slow emotional drift. Then one day she said: “I love you… but I’m not in love with you.” Their marriage isn’t completely dead — but it’s nearly sexless. Rare intimacy. No initiation. No spark. I break down: • What that phrase usually really means • Why sexless marriages often slide into “roommate mode” • The role of new relationship energy • Why becoming “safer” makes things worse • What a man must do if there’s any real chance of rebuilding desire This is not about blaming women. It’s about understanding the dynamic clearly. If you’re in a sexless marriage or feel like your wife is emotionally drifting away, watch this all the way through. Start with The Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com If you need grounded support from men who’ve been through this and won’t let you spiral, join the Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join You don’t want 20 years of polite indifference. You want to be chosen.

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