# Chat LIVE with Ralph & Laura How: Attachment, Monogamy & Why Nobody Grows Up Anymore

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Podcast: [Dad Starting Over](https://stenobird.com/podcast/dad-starting-over-688904)
Published: 2026-07-27T11:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://share.transistor.fm/s/c886fb76
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Duration seconds: 3500

## Resource

A full hour LIVE with therapist and author Laura How — one of the very few women publicly saying what she says about sexless marriages. So few, in fact, that the wives in her own village have stopped saying hello. We covered a lot of ground: whether you should stay when the in-love feelings fade, why "I fell out of love" is usually an ego defense, what attachment dysfunction actually is (hint: it's arrested development, and it's everywhere), the rise of "the ick," why your algorithm has convinced you all women are avoidant, and the myth that a wife who isn't intimate with you must be getting it somewhere else. Then I saved the hot-button for last. I told Laura about the men who feel forgotten after kids arrive — husbands demoted to co-parent and roommate for 18 years — and about the reaction that message always gets online: "You big baby. Change more diapers, then maybe I'll have energy for you." I asked for her honest take. Her answer: "I reject it entirely. I call BS." What follows — on staying lovers after kids, the "devouring mother," what your children actually feel when mom and dad are okay, and why a woman keeping her sexuality alive is something she does for HERSELF — is the strongest ten minutes on this topic I've had on this channel. 👩 Find Laura: https://laurahow.com — and search "Laura How" on YouTube and Facebook. She's building her audience there, and if this hour did something for you, subscribing to her is how you say thanks. 🔴 FREE: Fix Your Dead Bedroom (Instant PDF Download) https://go.helpformen.com/tl/545 🔴 FREE COURSE: The Dead Bedroom Fix Course https://deadbedroomfixcourse.com 🔴 NEW!: The Dead Bedroom Fix App https://studio.com/ralph/deadbedroomfix?c=gNiRtwcj 🔴 TAKE THE QUIZ: What's your REBUILD score? https://helpformen.com/insights/rebuild-sco…

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