# When Trauma Destroys Everything

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Podcast: [Dad Starting Over](https://stenobird.com/podcast/dad-starting-over-1383563)
Published: 2026-03-20T11:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://share.transistor.fm/s/a81b3e66
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## Resource

How does someone hold their life together at a high level for years — career, marriage, kids — and then suddenly blow it all up? I read a message from a follower whose wife unraveled after the death of her father. What followed was extreme weight loss, heavy drinking, multiple affairs, disappearing for days at a time, and eventually abandoning her family. I don’t interrupt the story. I read it straight through — then I explain what’s actually going on beneath the surface. We talk about unresolved childhood trauma, avoidant attachment, high-achievers who outrun their pain, and why some people seem to “change overnight” when their emotional scaffolding collapses. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t recognize her anymore,” this video will help you understand what you’re seeing — and what it means for you going forward. I also talk about these dynamics in my book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man , and inside the Help For Men Brotherhood , where men work through this kind of fallout together instead of carrying it alone. 🔗 Join the Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join 📘 Learn more about REBUILD: https://readrebuild.com

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