# 13. Stop Using Timeouts and Lecturing with Neurodivergent Kids: Do this Instead!

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Podcast: [Connected and Capable](https://stenobird.com/podcast/connected-and-capable-7638558)
Published: 2026-03-30T10:00:41+00:00
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Neurodivergent kids often struggle with following directions, listening, and self-control. What are we to do? We worry they aren't learning and want them to understand consequences. Both are very valid. In this episode learn why these popular parenting techniques we sometimes use intentionally and often out of desperation backfire with kids that have ADHD, Autism, or sensory needs.  Full disclosure lecturing is something I struggle with using with my ADHD kid. But, there's something going on under the difficult behaviors, and if it's not addressed the behaviors will likely only happen more often. Come learn what powerful shift can change how your kid acts, how they feel about themselves, and even grow skills with examples for preschoolers to teens.   Get a seat in our new free Executive Functioning Week with daily specific strategies that help kids listen, regulate, and follow directions here: YourKidsTable.com/efweek Key Timestamps: 00:25 – Why timeouts don’t work the way we think 03:10 – What’s actually happening in your child’s brain 06:45 – The mistake most parents don’t realize they’re making 10:20 – Why lecturing backfires (even when it feels right) 14:05 – The shift that changes everything 18:40 – What your child actually needs in that moment 23:15 – A better way to respond (that actually works) Grab your free printable copy of our 5 Big Calming Techniques for Big Emotions + Dysregulation-- https://yourkidstable.com/emotions-printable/ MORE RESOURCES FOR YOU Ready for a simple plan to overcome the attention, sleep, sensory, and big emotion challenges? I'll show you how for uniquely wired kids 1-18 years old in just 2-5 minutes a day. Join me in The Connection Hive-- https://YourKidsTable.com/TCH LET'S CONNECT: Instagram: https:…

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