# Why Most Marriages Fail (And How We Made It To 20 Years Without Quitting)

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Podcast: [Coming In Hot](https://stenobird.com/podcast/coming-in-hot-6882489)
Published: 2026-04-06T07:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Caroline and her husband John celebrate their 20-year anniversary on “Coming In Hot” by walking through a psychologist’s six stages of marriage and sharing what they’ve lived through so far, focusing on the honeymoon, realization, and rebellion stages. They openly discuss early red flags they ignored, especially around money, family dynamics, expectations, and communication, plus moments when the “rose-colored glasses” came off, including John getting fired and how he handled it. They talk about power struggles after kids, feeling controlled or resentful, and how having purpose, boundaries, lists, and honest conversations helped them rebuild connection. They share practical ways they stayed close—weekly date nights, travel, trying new things, and showing affection—while emphasizing respect, trust, patience, and not trying to change each other, ending with a playful lightning round and advice for making marriage last. 🎵Music Credit Nikka Costa – “It’s Just Love”  Follow Caroline: IG: https://www.instagram.com/shop.with.caroline/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shop.with.caroline Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beingcaroline Search Looks: https://www.shop-with-caroline.com/ Shop Merch: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/coming-in-hot Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Sponsors: Get 15% off your order of $100 or more at HillHouseHome.Com with code cominginhot. Go to Legacybox.com/COMINGINHOT to save 60%.  Produced by  Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

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