# Want Real Confidence? Stop Doing These 3 Things 🔥

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Podcast: [Coming In Hot](https://stenobird.com/podcast/coming-in-hot-6882489)
Published: 2026-05-04T07:00:00+00:00
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Caroline’s confidence didn’t come overnight. She exercised her confidence muscle and in this episode, she is sharing tips on how you can do this same. Her recent Cabo trip for her 20th anniversary became her most confident vacation yet as she wore a bikini without worrying about cellulite, then explains that confidence is built like a muscle through mindset and practice. Upset by her mom and mother-in-law’s constant self-criticism, she breaks down tools to improve body image, including shifting focus from looks to what the body can do, remembering most people don’t notice your flaws (the “spotlight effect”), using CBT-style mirror exposure with neutral language, dropping “safety behaviors” like hiding in baggy clothes, and valuing yourself beyond appearance through “self-complexity.” She then argues getting dressed and wearing jewelry can be daily “armor,” offering tips like the 15-minute rule, planning outfits ahead, swapping negative thoughts for positive ones, using color psychology, doing mirror pep talks, setting boundaries around negativity, and taking a weekly challenge to wear a “too much” outfit for an ordinary errand. Follow Caroline: IG: https://www.instagram.com/shop.with.caroline/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shop.with.caroline Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beingcaroline Search Looks: https://www.shop-with-caroline.com/ Shop Merch: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/coming-in-hot 🎵Music Credit Nikka Costa – “It’s Just Love”  Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Sponsors: Go to to save 60%.  Produced by  Dear Media. See Privacy P…

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