# Ep. 497 "The Neighborhood Watch"

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Podcast: [Cocktales with Kiki](https://stenobird.com/podcast/cocktales-dirty-discussions-543763)
Published: 2026-07-06T03:56:17+00:00
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Duration seconds: 3134

## Resource

This week, Kiki is taking roll call: Production, where y’all at? From the pressure to be a “girl’s girl” to the very real question of whether we need everybody to like us, Kiki gets into the complicated ways we show up for other women, and when “support” turns into blindly backing somebody who may be dead wrong. She also addresses the nosy-bitch paradox: Why do we hate when people are in our business… but suddenly know exactly who to call when we need the tea? Is being nosy actually the problem, or is it what people do with the information once they get it? Plus, Kiki shares a show update, talks about the difference between online personas and real life, answers an advice letter from a listener who feels like she has made her boyfriend her whole personality, and makes a case for maintaining your own life...even in a loving relationship. Grab your Neighborhood Watch cocktail, mind your business, or don’t, and join the conversation in the comments. VB Health- Try SOAKING WET Get 10% off SOAKING WET from VB Health with code COCKTALES visit vb.health today Contact us! Advice: advice@cocktalespod.com CockTales: cocktales@cocktalespod.com You can also leave a voicemail instead of an email for advice and cocktales!! 404-692-0039 Join Patreon to help support the show! www.patreon.com/cocktales Get Your Merch & Order Your Card Game www.imcurioustoknow.com Bali With Kiki! The Travel Tribe Experience : https://travel.kikisaidso.com/Bali Get Klassy Baste! Learn to Cook with Kiki www.klassybaste.com Join Kiki's Book Club www.patreon.com/kikisaidso Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-with-kiki--2818687/support . CONNECT WITH US Follow the host and join the conversation after the episode: Kiki Said So (Kiara Walker) Instagram: @kikisaids…

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