# How Trauma Affects Flirting & Dating:  Coaching with Kimmy

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Podcast: [Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love](https://stenobird.com/podcast/charisma-quotient-build-confidence-make-connections-and-find-love-947785)
Published: 2026-04-02T04:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://charismaquotient.libsyn.com/coaching-with-kimmy-healing-safety-trust-openness-in-dating
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Duration seconds: 3103

## Resource

Do you find yourself holding back, guarding your energy, or struggling to trust men—even when you long for connection? What if your difficulty with chemistry and attraction isn't about technique, but rooted in deeper experiences and beliefs from your past and you don't even realize it? In Episode 438 of The Charisma Quotient, "How Trauma Affects Flirting & Dating: Coaching with Kimmy " Kimmy sits down for a coaching call with Charlie, a successful, vibrant woman approaching 50 who's ready to unpack the undercurrents shaping her dating patterns. Together, they trace how childhood messages, family dynamics, and old trauma can create invisible walls that block playfulness, openness, and even sexual confidence. Kimmy gently unravels how familiar protection strategies—emotional and physical—can show up in body language, relationship choices, and the persistent "friend zone" frustration. Kimmy helps Charlie discover why her flirtation style isn't just "corny" or "awkward," but a form of self-protection shaped by a protective upbringing and past relationship betrayals. They discuss practical strategies for Charlie (and YOU!) to slowly let down the guard, step into social situations with empowered energy, and do the deep work to attract the partnership she truly wants. You'll hear: How childhood messages about safety and seriousness can block your natural flirtation instincts The connection between past trauma, a guarded demeanor, and feeling "awkward" in dating Why protection strategies that worked in the past can now repel chemistry and attraction The pendulum swing—from controlling relationships to ultra-safe, distant ones, and how it impacts you The power of identifying and breaking patterns with unavailable partners Curious to see what's really holding you back? Hop on a…

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