# EP 18: Attachment Styles: The Silent Saboteurs — How They Screw Up Your Relationships (and How They Can Save Them)

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Podcast: [Breaking Cycles with Maria](https://stenobird.com/podcast/breaking-up-with-toxicity-6618238)
Published: 2025-12-04T13:00:00+00:00
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Duration seconds: 1535

## Resource

Your reactions aren’t random — they’re wired. Your fears aren’t “too much” — they’re patterns. And your relationship struggles aren’t failures — they’re attachment styles playing out in real time. In this episode of  Breaking Up With Toxicity ,  Maria Shkreli, LMHC  exposes how your attachment style was shaped long before you ever dated anyone… and how it still dictates the way you love, fight, connect, shut down, panic, or pull away today. Maria breaks down the four attachment styles — Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized — using real, relatable everyday scenarios: the unread text that sends you spiraling, the partner who shuts down when you want to talk, the sudden panic when things get “too close,” the push-pull dynamic that feels like emotional whiplash. You’ll learn: • Why anxious attachers overthink and fear abandonment • Why avoidant partners pull back when emotions get intense • Why disorganized attachers crave connection but fear it at the same time • How secure partners can stabilize — or unintentionally trigger — other styles • Which pairings create healing… and which create chaos without awareness This episode gives you the emotional clarity you’ve been missing — the “Oh… THAT’S why I do that” moment your relationships have been waiting for. And stay tuned: next week we bring this full circle with “Empathy Meets Attachment: Why You Misread People Even When You Think You Understand Them.”

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