# EP 14: Stop Chasing the Insanity: You Can’t Fix Every Problem

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Podcast: [Breaking Cycles with Maria](https://stenobird.com/podcast/breaking-up-with-toxicity-6618238)
Published: 2025-10-23T04:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://breaking-up-with-toxicity.captivate.fm
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Duration seconds: 686

## Resource

In this raw and unapologetically honest episode, Maria Shkreli, LMHC, breaks down why you keep trying to fix everyone’s problems — and why it’s driving you insane. From rescuing friends and managing your partner’s emotions to cleaning up everyone’s chaos at work and home — this “fixer” pattern isn’t compassion, it’s control in disguise. Maria calls out how unrealistic expectations, distorted thinking, and anxious attachment keep you stuck in cycles of burnout, resentment, and emotional chaos. You’ll learn: Why your need to “fix things” is really about calming your own anxiety How black-and-white thinking, personalization, and catastrophizing keep you spiraling The difference between helping out of love vs. helping out of fear And the truth about why peace feels so uncomfortable when you’re used to dysfunction It’s not about becoming cold — it’s about reclaiming your sanity. So, before you rush to fix someone else’s mess, pause and ask:  “Is this really mine to solve?” Because healing isn’t about control — it’s about letting go. Listen now to learn how to stop chasing problems and start choosing peace.

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