# How To Handle Hurt Without Ruining Your Relationship [Ep 114]

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Podcast: [Better Than Perfect | A Relationship Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast-6707853)
Published: 2026-01-31T01:53:12+00:00
Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betterthanperfect/episodes/How-To-Handle-Hurt-Without-Ruining-Your-Relationship-Ep-114-e3ee74h
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## Resource

What do you do when your partner hurts you? Do you lash out? Shut down? Pretend it didn't happen? In this episode, John and Nicole dive deep into what happens when we get hurt in relationships—and why most of us handle it completely wrong.The truth is, you're probably extending your own suffering way longer than necessary. That initial hurt? It only lasts 60-90 seconds. Everything after that is what YOU add to it.In this episode:• Why taking things personally is destroying your peace• The difference between malice and ignorance (and why it matters)• How to process emotions instead of expressing OR suppressing them• Why doing hard things makes you emotionally bulletproof• The one question that instantly shifts your perspective in conflictPlus, a real example from our own relationship where John dropped the ball—and what we learned from it.Email us: betterthanperfectpodcast@gmail.comWebsite: betterthanperfectpod.com

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