# 273: Best of Ask Lisa: Confidence, Self-Esteem & Self-Compassion

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Podcast: [Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens](https://stenobird.com/podcast/ask-lisa-the-psychology-of-raising-tweens-teens-477102)
Published: 2026-05-26T07:00:00+00:00
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Duration seconds: 2565

## Resource

Does your tween or teen struggle with low confidence and self-esteem? Do you want to cultivate healthy self-compassion and self-worth in them — and in yourself? In this special "Best of Ask Lisa" compilation, clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and co-host Reena Ninan pull together some of their most powerful conversations on self-esteem, confidence, and self-compassion, covering the full arc of the tween and teen years. Whether your child is drowning in negative self-talk, paralyzed by perfectionism, or just seems to have lost the spark they once had, this episode will help you understand what's normal, what's not, and what actually works. 💡 YOU'LL LEARN: - Why confidence naturally dips around ages 5-9 (and why that doesn't mean you've failed as a parent) - Why girls often experience a sharp confidence drop around age 12, and what's really going on for boys during puberty - The "tributaries and the lake" framework for building self-esteem that lasts across a lifetime - How to respond when your kid spirals into harsh negative self-talk, including the exact phrases Dr. Lisa recommends - Whether it's okay to tell your daughter she's beautiful - How modeling self-compassion is one of the most powerful confidence tools you have This episode draws on insights from guests Dr. Tovah Klein, Dr. Sue Varma, and Dr. Traci Baxley, alongside Dr. Lisa's own research and clinical expertise. Your child's confidence struggles are workable; making small, consistent shifts in how you respond can make a real difference over time. ________________ Today's sponsors: Momentous: Get 5% off your first order with promo code ASKLISA at ⁠https://www.livemomentous.com⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at ⁠https://www.shopify.com/asklisa⁠ Mill: $75 off with your membersh…

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