# Enneagram and the Shape of Our Sex Lives | Dr. Sam E Greenberg (5) and Lyndsey Fraser LMFT (9)

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Podcast: [Around the Circle | An Enneagram Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/around-the-circle-an-enneagram-channel-86508)
Published: 2026-07-23T14:02:00+00:00
Episode link: https://www.aroundthecircle.org/episodes/
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## Resource

Sex is rarely just about sex. In this conversation, Jeff sits down with sexuality researcher Dr. Sam Greenberg and certified sex therapist Lyndsey Fraser to explore how the Enneagram shapes intimacy, desire, communication, and long-term relationships. Moving beyond stereotypes, they discuss why so many couples struggle with mismatched desire, why "low desire" is often something else entirely, and how each Enneagram type approaches vulnerability, attraction, and connection in distinctive ways. The episode takes a deep dive into two common pairings— Eight/Nine and Four/Six —examining the ways these couples pursue intimacy, avoid rejection, communicate desire, and unknowingly frustrate one another. Along the way, they explore the roles of trust, shame, healthy sexual development, gender expectations, instincts, and why understanding motive can transform the way partners experience one another. Rather than offering one-size-fits-all advice, this conversation argues that healthy sexuality begins with self-awareness. The Enneagram becomes more than a personality system—it becomes a language for expressing desire, understanding your partner, and discovering what intimacy actually asks of us. Connect with Sam HERE and Lyndsey HERE Comment on the episode HERE Our Prior Episdoes on Sex and Enneagram are Here and Here .

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