# 202 - You Might Be Emotionally Abusive Without Knowing It. Here's the Pattern That Proves It.

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Podcast: [Anger Secrets: Anger Management for Healthier Relationships](https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386)
Published: 2026-09-13T00:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://angersecrets.com/podcast/202-you-might-be-emotionally-abusive-without-knowing-it-heres-the-pattern-that-proves-it
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Duration seconds: 705

## Resource

For help controlling your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Most people who become emotionally abusive don't wake up intending to hurt the person they love. But unmanaged anger can quietly become emotional abuse without you ever recognising the pattern. This episode explains how it happens, and how to stop it before it destroys your relationship. Many people think emotional abuse only applies to extreme relationships. In reality, it often develops slowly through repeated anger, criticism, intimidation, stonewalling, controlling behaviour, or making a partner feel unsafe. These behaviours frequently grow out of anger problems rather than deliberate cruelty, but the damage they cause is no less real. In this episode, Alastair explains what emotional abuse actually is, why intent doesn't erase its impact and how fear, shame, and emotional insecurity quietly develop inside relationships. You'll learn why emotionally abusive behaviour often begins with anger that goes unchecked, how to recognise the warning signs in yourself, and why taking responsibility is the turning point that allows real change to begin. Alastair also shares the five-step process he teaches clients to break these destructive patterns: developing honest self-awareness, accepting responsibility without excuses, understanding the emotional impact on your partner and children, identifying your anger triggers, and committing to lasting behavioural change. Through the story of one client who rebuilt safety in his home, you'll see that change is possible—even after years of damaging behaviour. The Anger Secrets Podcast helps men and women master anger management, improve relationships, rebuild trust after anger, and create calmer, happier families. Hosted by anger specialist Alastair Duhs, creator of The Comple…

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