# 197 - He Lost His Marriage Before He Asked for Help. Here's What Colin Learned.

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Podcast: [Anger Secrets: Anger Management for Healthier Relationships](https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-secrets-5809386)
Published: 2026-08-09T00:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://angersecrets.com/podcast/197-he-lost-his-marriage-before-he-asked-for-help-heres-what-colin-learned
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Duration seconds: 772

## Resource

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Colin knew he had an anger problem. His wife knew it too. She asked him more than once to get help, but like many people struggling with anger, he convinced himself things weren't that bad. By the time he finally decided to do something about it, his marriage was over. In this episode, Alastair shares Colin's story in his own words. It's an honest and deeply personal conversation about the real cost of untreated anger, the damage it can do to trust, communication, and family relationships and what happens when someone finally decides enough is enough. You'll hear how pride, denial, impulsive reactions and learned family patterns kept Colin stuck for years. You'll also hear the difficult realisation that many of his behaviors—raising his voice, jumping to conclusions, becoming defensive and reacting without thinking—were patterns he had inherited and accepted as normal. Most importantly, you'll hear how awareness, accountability and practical anger management tools helped him begin creating a different future for himself and his children. This episode isn't about saving a marriage. It's about something equally important: refusing to let anger keep damaging the people you love. Colin's story is a reminder that change is possible, that breaking generational patterns is possible, and that the sooner you act, the less damage anger has the opportunity to cause. If you've ever thought, "I've got this under control," or "It's not that bad," this conversation may be the wake-up call you need. Anger Secrets is the podcast for men and women who want lasting anger management solutions and stronger relationships. Hosted by Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System, each episode explores…

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