# 82 - Why You Keep Yelling at Your Kids (Even When You're Trying Not To)

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Podcast: [Anger Management](https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541)
Published: 2026-05-24T18:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://angersecrets.com/82-why-you-keep-yelling-at-your-kids-even-when-youre-trying-not-to
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## Resource

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs tackles one of the most common and most painful patterns parents face: knowing your anger is a problem, trying to change and finding yourself right back where you started. Whether you have made promises to your kids that didn't hold, tried parenting tips that worked for a week and then faded, or felt the shame of yelling again after genuinely trying not to, this episode is for you. Rather than offering generic parenting advice, Alastair gets to the root of why the same triggers keep setting parents off and walks through practical, specific strategies that actually change the pattern. And the good news is, this is not about willpower. Once you understand what is really driving your anger in those moments, everything becomes more manageable. Key Takeaways: Your child's behaviour is rarely the real cause of your anger. On a good day, spilled cereal gets a calm response. On a hard day, it triggers an explosion. The difference is what is already happening inside you, not what your child did. Before you react, take ten seconds to ask yourself what you are actually feeling. Overwhelmed, exhausted, stressed about something else entirely. Getting honest about what is yours and what is theirs is the first step to real change. Vague rules create conflict. Kids need specifics, not instructions like "be good" or "don't interrupt." When you give them a clear action to take instead, there is far less room for the kind of friction that tips you over the edge. Catch your kids doing something right. Children get attention when they misbehave and silence when they behave well. Specific praise for good behaviour teaches them what to do, not just what to avoid, and makes c…

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