# 79 - Why Your Partner Stops Talking to You (And How to Fix It)

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Podcast: [Anger Management](https://stenobird.com/podcast/anger-management-7096541)
Published: 2026-05-03T18:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://angersecrets.com/79-why-your-partner-stops-talking-to-you-and-how-to-fix-it
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## Resource

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode of the Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three concrete steps for communicating more effectively with your partner, especially when things get heated. Whether you're the one who shuts down in an argument or the one who keeps pushing to be heard, the problem is rarely what's being said. It's how people are listening, and how they express themselves when the stakes feel high. Rather than offering vague advice about being a better communicator, Alastair walks through three practical tools you can use in your next difficult conversation. These are skills, not personality traits. They get easier with practice. Key Takeaways: Most people think they're good listeners. Most people are wrong. In a tense conversation, the majority are just waiting for their turn to talk. Your partner can feel the difference. Active listening means being fully present. Not fixing, not advising, not preparing your response. Your only job is to understand what your partner is actually saying and feeling. Asking questions like "How did you feel about that?" or "Can you tell me more?" shifts a conversation from confrontational to collaborative. When people feel heard, the defensiveness drops. The DESC model gives you a four-part structure for expressing yourself without aggression: Describe the situation, Explain your feelings, Suggest what you'd like and give the positive Consequences of that solution. How you say something matters as much as what you say. The same concern delivered differently can either start a fight or start a real conversation. Effective negotiation means both people feel heard before any solution is proposed. A solution you've both shaped together is one you'll…

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