# E 342: Tammy's Takes #31: Why Adult Children Struggle to Trust Themselves

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Podcast: [Adult Child of Dysfunction](https://stenobird.com/podcast/adult-child-of-dysfunction-6619234)
Published: 2026-07-08T08:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://adult-child-of-dysfunction.captivate.fm/episode/why-adult-children-struggle-to-trust-themselves
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## Resource

Have you ever noticed how quickly you ask everyone else what they think before asking yourself? If you grew up in a dysfunctional home, that isn't because you're indecisive—it's because you learned to survive by paying attention to everyone else's needs before your own. In this week's Tammy's Takes , I expand on one of the biggest takeaways from my conversation with therapist and author Shari Foos : learning to reconnect with your own voice. As children, many of us became experts at reading the room. We learned to recognize moods, anticipate conflict, and make ourselves smaller to stay safe. Over time, we became incredibly skilled at understanding everyone else—but disconnected from ourselves. Healing isn't about learning to make perfect decisions. It's about trusting yourself enough to make a decision, adjusting when you need to, and believing you'll be okay either way. In this episode, I talk about why self-trust is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, how your nervous system influences your decision-making, and one simple practice you can begin using today to start rebuilding confidence in your own inner voice. If you haven't already, I encourage you to listen to my full conversation with Shari Foos on this week's episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction . Her insights on storytelling, authenticity, and healing beautifully complement today's conversation. Healing doesn't happen all at once—it happens one small, intentional step at a time. If today's episode resonated with you, I'd love to connect. Whether you're interested in scheduling a Complimentary Clarity & Calm Call , learning more about my AO Voice Scan , exploring coaching, or simply discovering resources that can support your healing journey, check out my links below and reach out in whatever c…

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