# E 318: Tammys Takes #22: Your Child Isn't The Trigger.. Your  Nervous System Is

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Podcast: [Adult Child of Dysfunction](https://stenobird.com/podcast/adult-child-of-dysfunction-6619234)
Published: 2026-05-22T08:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://adult-child-of-dysfunction.captivate.fm/episode/e-318-tammys-takes-22-your-child-isnt-the-trigger-your-nervous-system-is
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Duration seconds: 680

## Resource

In this powerful Tammy’s Takes episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction , Tammy Vincent expands on her conversation with Irin Rubin, founder of Mama Zen, to explore a difficult but important truth: Your child may not actually be the trigger… your nervous system is. If you’ve ever found yourself snapping, yelling, shutting down, feeling overstimulated, or wondering: “Why am I reacting this strongly?” This episode is for you. Tammy dives into how childhood dysfunction, emotional neglect, trauma, and growing up in chaotic environments shape the nervous system and influence the way we parent today. She explains why many parenting reactions are not about the child’s behavior—but about old wounds, subconscious survival patterns, and nervous system dysregulation. Most importantly, Tammy shares a practical 3-Step Nervous System Reset for Parenting Triggers to help parents pause, regulate emotional overwhelm, stop reactive patterns, and begin breaking generational trauma in real time. This episode covers emotional regulation, co-regulation, repair after conflict, parenting after dysfunction, and why healing yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. Because your children don’t need perfect parents. They need healing ones. 🔑 KEY TAKEAWAYS • Why your child may not actually be “the trigger” • How childhood dysfunction impacts parenting reactions • The connection between trauma and nervous system dysregulation • Tammy’s 3-Step Nervous System Reset for parenting triggers • Why co-regulation matters more than control • How repair builds emotional safety with children • Why shame keeps generational trauma alive • The difference between reacting and responding 💛 READY TO REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM? If you’re tired of feeling emotionally flooded, reactive, overwhel…

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