# E 314: Tammy's Take #20: You Don't Need Perfect Parents: You Need One Safe Person

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Podcast: [Adult Child of Dysfunction](https://stenobird.com/podcast/adult-child-of-dysfunction-6619234)
Published: 2026-05-14T08:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://adult-child-of-dysfunction.captivate.fm/episode/one-safe-person-nervous-system-healing
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Duration seconds: 642

## Resource

In this heartfelt Tammy’s Takes episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction , Tammy expands on a powerful concept from her conversation with child advocate and trauma-informed clinician Paula Yost: sometimes healing doesn’t begin with perfect circumstances—it begins with one safe person . Tammy explores how childhood dysfunction shapes the nervous system and why so many adults struggle with anxiety, people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, overthinking, and relationship challenges later in life. Through a trauma-informed lens, she explains the powerful role of co-regulation —the way safe relationships help calm and retrain the nervous system—and why many adult children of dysfunction never received enough of it growing up. This episode is a compassionate reminder that healing happens in safe relationships, not perfect ones. Tammy also shares a practical 3-step process listeners can begin using today to create more emotional safety in their lives, improve relationships, and start becoming the safe person they may have never had. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling emotionally unsafe, overwhelmed, or disconnected, this episode will help you better understand why—and offer hope for what healing can look like moving forward. 🔑 Key Takeaways • Why one safe person can change a life • What co-regulation is and why it matters • How childhood dysfunction impacts the nervous system • Why healing happens in safe relationships, not perfect ones • The hidden effects of emotional unpredictability growing up • A 3-step process to begin creating emotional safety today • How to become the safe person you may have never had If you’re tired of survival mode and want help understanding the patterns keeping you stuck, book a free Clarity & Calm call: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/clarity-…

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