# 4. What Do I Do When Being Reasonable Hasn't Worked? The School Escalation Pathway Schools Don't Tell You About - with Sara Hocking

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Published: 2026-06-15T18:15:00+00:00
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The principal told you to contact region. Region told you to contact the principal. You're sitting in your car wondering if you're going quietly insane. You're not — and neither is the principal. The system is built to do exactly this, to everyone inside it. Sara Hocking is back to map a way out, and the news isn't what you think. What We Cover The one subject line that forces an official response — and why most schools have been waiting for someone to send it The institutional rule that makes principals back their staff publicly even when they're moving things behind the scenes — and how to read the quiet changes The escalation pathway nobody hands you, and the exact point where 95% of parents tap out The strategic reason to keep going past that point even when it feels pointless Why teachers aren't ignoring you — Sara's frame for what's actually happening in the staffroom, and what they're being asked to triage every day The paper-trail trick you can do in 30 seconds on your phone after every conversation Why you arrive at every school meeting already at a ten, and what the other parents in the room don't realise about themselves What restraint, expulsion and catchment actually mean — and the policy vacuum that hands one principal the call when there should be a system holding it Stop waiting for an apology. Sara explains why it isn't coming from individuals, and what to watch for from the structure instead. Free Resources School Complaint & Escalation Guide: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/school-complaint-escalation-guide/ Quiet Exclusion Kit: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/quiet-exclusion-kit/ More from Sara Sara Hocking runs See Beyond — neuroaffirming, nervous-system-informed resources for parents and schools, including free printables you can send straight…

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