# 4. They Took Away the Village and Handed Us the iPad. Then They Told Us Not to Use It.

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Published: 2026-06-10T19:00:00+00:00
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A friend came over the other day. She'd just done a week on the Sunshine Coast with her three kids, the whole pack-up by herself. We were sitting at my kitchen table doing that thing where you're laughing and crying at the same time. She couldn't get her kids to put the bins out because they were glued to their iPads. I said yep, same. The deeper problem isn't just the iPad. It's that someone pulled every single support structure out from under us, handed us a screen, and then put the guilt on top. What We Cover The Sunshine Coast kitchen table moment — the bins, the iPads, the laughing-crying The Christmas holidays Minecraft trap — how the rules got relaxed in December and what's still happening in May Three things that have completely changed about parenting in the last 40 years that nobody updated us on Why mums in 1990 weren't negotiating screen time — and what they had for free that we just don't The anticipatory regulation load — why parenting an ADHD child is three jobs stacked on top of each other, not one The dopamine input the world used to supply — and what happens when you take the iPad without replacing it Why every screen time recommendation contradicts every other one, and the researchers fight each other publicly We are the first generation parenting through this. There is no generational wisdom on iPads. Nobody knows the right amount. Not the paediatricians, not your mother-in-law, not the friend down the road. Free Resources Surviving the Mental Load of the School Year: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-school-year-mental-load-kit/ Household Family Meeting Template: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-household-family-meeting-template/ Related Episodes S3 EP12 QUICK RESET: I Can't Stop Snapping When My Child Does This One Thing — https://adhdmums.…

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