# 107. Sorry I'm Late. I Have ADHD.' But .... My Friend Has ADHD Too. She's Never Late

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Podcast: [ADHD Mums](https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089)
Published: 2026-05-20T19:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/sorry-im-late-i-have-adhd-my-friend-has-adhd-too-shes-never-late
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Sorry I'm late. I have ADHD. So does my friend. She's sitting at the coffee shop halfway through her first one, watching me sweat through the door twenty minutes late. Same diagnosis. Different morning. Different brain doing the work behind it. What We Cover The vein surgery saga — three appointments, three completely different outcomes, same brain The receptionist who handed me the appointment card like a library card and the one who didn't Why "set more alarms, leave earlier" is the equivalent of telling someone with low blood sugar to just have more energy The four types of ADHD time blindness — petrol gauge stuck on full, the car that won't start, the GPS that lies, the seatbelt warning that's late Why your strategies haven't worked — because they were built for someone else's type What actually works for each one — visual time, body doubling, departure rituals, calibration with a stopwatch, manufactured deadlines Why "I left heaps of time" keeps being true and untrue at the same time The 40-50% rule — adults with ADHD underestimate task time by half. Double it. Then add buffer. Why the friend at the coffee shop at five to nine isn't more disciplined — she's borrowing structure from her environment What collapses on school holidays, sick days, working from home, and what that tells you about which strategies are actually holding you up The estrogen/dopamine link — why the same brain at 32 isn't the same brain at 42 Free Resource Energy Accounting Guide — for the dopamine/load piece: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-mums-energy-accounting-guide/ Free Resources Library: https://adhdmums.com.au/product-category/free-resources/ Paid Resource ADHD Reset Workbook — Values, Energy & Planning: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-planner-and-values/ Related Episode…

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